Hi,I have questions, behalf of my friend  who is asked me to ask mofti about her husband which he is married with 4 wifes she is the first one  her husband not love him any more after secand wife he became like that .He  loved other wifes but not her he is coming in his room but not becomes physical only talking with her not going close to her even she tried everything to make him interested to her but didn't work even she told her direct he said it is not harram what ever I am doing not your problem given her straight answers.Can you tell me is it okay if husband give her other rights only not become physical,
asked Sep 5, 2020 in Family Matters by Sahar1234

1 Answer

Ref. No. 1124/42-348

In the name of Allah the most Gracious the most Merciful

The answer to your question is as follows:

Physical contact requires sexual arousal. Hence the husband has the choice to reduce physical contact with her, and in this regard he cannot be forced. However, it is mandatory for a husband to maintain equality with all his wives meeting all requisites of their life and spending nights not necessarily having physical relationship. Sometimes physical contact with the wife and the fulfillment of her sexual desire is obligatory upon her husband in accordance with the Islamic conscience. 

یجب ان یعدل ان لا یجور فیہ ای فی القسم بالتسویۃ فی البیتوتۃ  وفی الملبوس والماکول والصحبۃ لا فی المجامعۃ کالمحبۃ بل یستحب ویسقط حقھا بمرۃ ویجب دیانۃ احیانا۔ (ردالمحتار 4/378)

And Allah knows best

Darul Ifta

Darul Uloom Waqf Deoband

answered Sep 23, 2020 by Darul Ifta